Telling my parents 

I didn’t think that my parents would be upset when I told them about my girl side. I didn’t think that they would disown me or anything like that. Our relationship was too good, so I wasn’t too worried when I told them. I also suspected that they already knew. 

They were very accepting, but they had no idea about my girl side. It was a complete surprise to them. So my thoughts about two incidents decades ago were completely wrong. Once again I had over thought things. 

I told them not to worry that I was going to get surgery or anything like that. I wasn’t going to change my body like that. I told them because I felt part boy and part girl that if I went all girl then I’d be just as far away from who I am as being all boy. So all girl was not an option. I also told them that I wasn’t planning to come see them dressed as a girl. I didn’t think that I, or they would be comfortable with that just yet. 

What happened next surprised me no end. Dad went off to find something and after searching around for a quite a while he returned with a gift for me. It was a family heirloom. His grandmother had given him her gold ring with a jade stone. And now he was giving it to me, as a token of their love and acceptance of me. 

It was overwhelming. Never in my wildest dreams was I expecting this. I thought my coming out to them wouldn’t be a big problem. But I wasn’t expecting such complete acceptance so quickly. My parents are amazing.

I wear this ring a lot! Every time my girl side is out and about, no matter what else I’m wearing, no matter if it clashes, I just love to wear that ring. It also comes with me a lot when I’m a boy too 🙂 luckily enough it just fits my smallest finger. Phew! 

Very soon after, I had similar conversations with my sisters and brother-in-law. Everyone was so accepting it was amazing! And then I emailed all of my nieces and nephews on my side of the family. And once again the response was overwhelming! 


Photo by Joey Kyber


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